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>Too Strong a Woman for a Man to Want

>If breaking stereotypes is a sin, I must be Devil’s child. So when Goofy tagged me to enumerate all My Sins against Gender Stereotypes, I thought I’d fill reams and reams of pages. However, when I did get down to writing them out, I realised there was something I had already written that made perfect sense to re-post now, with a little tweaking. Here goes:

Too strong a woman for a man to want,
The woman, they say, who wears the pants at home.
I ain’t coy and I ain’t shy,
And I won’t wait for life to pass me by.
I love my work and would rather be
In my office, than at home counting the laundry.
I can think faster than the man next to me,
Won’t ask him for some silly little pocket money.
And because I’m married and don’t have children yet
Must mean my that husband is henpecked?
And because I have an opinion on things
I’m not the kind of wife a man must bring.
Since I am only pretty and not naive,
I’m far from the “perfect” wife!
I can stand up for myself, speak my mind
Won’t take his surname and give up mine.
I’m sorry if I don’t fit your stereotype:
I flirt a little and get drunk on wine.
I don’t have a mangalsutra,
And don’t wear the vermilion.
If I live away from home,
Because I have an ambition,
I must be too strong for a man to want.


>I can’t think of a title for this post, honestly

>And that admission is just right for this post, because I’m being awarded for such honest admissions! Just when I was out of blogworthy stuff, came this award from The Double Inverted Commas (interesting name, eh?)

Thank you DIC, for coming to my rescue. And since I must tell you honestly10 things about myself, here I go:

1. I want to see the world, but America figures last on my list of must-see places. Actually, as of now, it doesn’t figure on that list at all.
2. I want to be an Indian princess or hope I was one in one of my past lives! At least I can have a dasi in this life (?)
3. If I listen to music for too long, it starts sounding like noise to me! I’m not a music person at all except on rare days.
4. Also, I’m not a TV person at all. I know by now you think I’m strange but honestly, I can easily live without television, not the internet though!
5. I’m not easily impressed. I can appreciate people and things, but I’m difficult to impress. What does impress me is intelligence.
6. My attitude to smoking is that of a vegetarian towards non-veg food, if you know what I mean!
7. I’m a foodie in disguise. You can never look at me and tell how much I think of good food!
8. I love writing letters, always have loved it. When I was a kid, I would write notes and leave for my parents in odd place. When my grandfather passed away, I wrote letters to him asking him to come back and hid them in newspaper stacks. I used to write letters for others. I still write letters, a lot of them in my head, some on my blog.
9. On most days, I love my life!
10. I’m moving.

Now I must pass on the award to honest bloggers (like me!), some of whom may already have received it already:
1. My namesake, Dee
2. Roop, one of the few bloggers who impress me with their honesty!
3. Goofy, who’s better known as Passionate Goof
4. Aneela Z, who doesn’t tell all but seems to tell what she does honestly
5. Childwoman, who may not even acknowledge this because she’s still trying to overcome the loss of her mother
6. Unsung Psalm, who is honest on his blog at least
7. Monika, who’s just had a baby and seems to be off blogging, but that’s no reason for me to not give her the award.

And all you award winners, the award checklist goes like this:
1. I must thank the person who gave me the award and list their blog and link it – Check
2. I must list 10 honest things about myself – Check
3. I must put a copy of Honest Scrap logo on my blog – Check
4. I must select at least 7, 8 other worthy bloggers and list their links – Check
5. I must notify the bloggers of the award and hopefully they will follow the above three requirements – Check

>A plate full of memories

>Purely Narcotic tagged me to do this very interesting tag about food memories: Five memorable meals ever eaten: It could be anything that makes the meal memorable – the food, the place, the place you were in your life when you ate, the company, the weather, the ambiance – heck, the guy who served the food!”. Considering that I have such a large storehouse of memories, it wouldn’t be difficult to dig out some that are associated with food.

And the first one that comes to mind is of Sakhawat’s kebab and biryani. A lot of you may have heard of Tundey kebabs from Lucknow, but Sakhawat’s kebabs are far better than even Tundey’s! And I happened to have spent a substantial part of my life in a house that was located right opposite Sakhawat’s shop. The evenings at home were characterised by the smell of the kebabs wafting into the house. And it coincided with Dad’s returning from the court. Now, my Dad isn’t a foodie, but he had a weakness for these kebabs. He would come back home and steal me away for a quick bite of kebab and roomali roti and the day’s specialty. It was a great time for us father-daughter to bond and also great food to bond over!

When I was in college, I couldn’t get over the taste of palak paneer that my Mom made: simple, delectable and flavoured with mother’s love! The first meal at home after I returned from hostel had to be palak paneer. Nothing less, nothing more. I know the recipe by heart but I can’t come close to mom’s cooking!

Another palak paneer memory is from Cairns, Australia where I tasted the most amazing Indian food out of home. Surprising but true, the Indian restaurants there whip up better food than most restaurants in India! Or perhaps it tastes better because you’re so far from home. Imagine sitting in an open-air restaurant near the lagoon in Cairns and enjoying palak paneer and naan. It’s the best of both the worlds! I can’t quite forget what that meal tasted like.

And them there are the innumerable club sandwiches that I have had with The Guy. When I started dating him, I was already in love with them – the sandwiches, that is. And he would unfailingly get them packed from The Taj here in Lucknow. I still savour the sandwiches simply because of the memories they bring back of our dates!

My latest food memory isn’t of a food at all – it’s of coffee: cold coffee. It’s a memory that’s in the making. I don’t know how it became part of our routine, but there’s hardly been a day in the last two years when The Guy and I have not had cold coffee together in the morning. We aren’t breakfast people, but coffee is just as good. Some days, I have cold coffee just because I love the time we spend together gulping our mug-fuls and talking of the day ahead. I look forward to those five minutes as the most precious moments of the day.

So what’s your fave food memory? You can answer them, but I’d like to tag:
1. Maid in Malaysia because I’ve read so many of her payasam tales, I know she’ll have lots of food memories to share.
2. Chandni, because her tweets convince me she’s a foodie!
3. Goofy Mumma, who is quite fond of cooking, I guess.
4. Monika Manchanda, because if she can think of starting a food blog, she must have lots to share from her meal memoirs
5. Broom Box, because of the lovely food photography I’ve seen on her blog.

>Ek, do, teen…


I picked this number tag from Finn’s blog, modified it a little to add pics and would now like to tag some of my new blogger friends so that I can to get to know them a little better. They are:

1. Dewdropdream
2. Loz
3. Bones
4. Chrysalis
5. Patricia
6. How do we know
7. Mampi
8. Mumbai Diva
9. Soulmate
10. Just Call Me ‘A’

Of course, any of you who would like to tell about your life in numbers, I’m waiting to listen.

>The Greatest Love of All: Self-Love

>When you’re done with sending pink chhadis and they’re done with reacting to it, we can do this: celebrate February 14 as Self-Love Day as this blogger has suggested.

Why I’m doing this is simple enough: if there’s anything I truly love, it’s myself. And I couldn’t resist the temptation to indulge in a little public display of self-love. Also, because I know there are lots of people out there who don’t love themselves enough, that I think this is such a great idea. It’s important we learn to love who we are. When we look around too much for love and approval and such stuff, we make ourselves miserable because we don’t always find what we’re looking for and where we’re looking for it.

Finn says this better than I can and though I just did a post on how much I want The Guy and me to spend a typical pink and pretty Valentine’s Day, now I think I’ll spend the day loving myself.

Here’s what I’m expected to do: I have to put down one thing that I love about myself and get you, dear blogger, to write one thing that you love about me. Easy? So here goes:

What I love about myself is my positivity. My optimism has made life so much easier for me than what it would have been. It makes me see the silver lining in the clouds and that silver lining is a lot when your sky is full of clouds. I love myself for being able to sustain that optimism even when I’m surrounded by negativity.

Now your turn. Tell me what you think is lovable about me. Also tell me, what’s lovable about you.


>Got tagged by DeeplyDip and Just Call Me ‘A’ to do a picture tag. And since you already know how high I am on pictures these days, I won’t explain in greater detail why I was so excited to do this one.

The rules are simple enough: I have to do a google image search for the answers to all the 18 questions and pick the a picture on the first page with minimal explanation. I’d seen this tag on Piper’s blog sometime ago and I think that was so much more intriguing. So I’m skipping the “minimal explanation” as well. If pictures actually speak a thousand words, you should be able to guess the answers!
1. The age you will be in your next birthday

2. A place you’d like to travel to

3. Your Favorite place

4. Your favorite food/drink:

5. Your favorite pet

6. Your favorite colour combination

7. Your favorite piece of clothing

8. Your all time favorite song

9. Your favorite TV show

10. Full name of your significant other

11. The town in which you live

12. Your screen name/nickname13. Your first job
14. Your Dream Job
15. One Bad Habit you have

16. Your worst fear

17. The one thing you’ll like to do before you die

18. The first thing you’ll buy if you get $1,000,000

If you think this tag is interesting, go ahead and do it. I’d love to see your answers.

>’Tis the season to give

>’Tis the season to give and so I must pass on the cheer I have been receiving. Through all these awards, that is! This one by Monika of Everyday Life is given to a blog that invests and believes in PROXIMITY – nearness in space, time and relationships! These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in prizes or self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers! Deliver this award to eight bloggers who must choose eight more and include this cleverly-written text into the body of their award.

I pass this on to the friends I’ve made here
1. Chandni
2. Aneela Z
3. Abha
4. Devaki
5. Anonymous
6. Goofy Mumma, who gave this award to me before I could give it to her!
7. Narcoleptic
8. And I want to give it back to Monika!

And Goofy Mumma has honoured me with another award.

This award, I am told, is bestowed with the purpose of “acknowledging the values that every blogger shows in his/her effort to transmit cultural, ethical, literary and personal values every day.” Wow! Sounds impressive, doesn’t it?

And I shall forward it to:
1. The Lover, for being the poet that every lover should be!
2. Dharmabum, who’s been missing from blogging action and needs to now move the other kind of bum 😉

3. Kiran Manral, who is a new addition to my bloglist but whose writings instantly convey a sense of her cultural, ethical, literary and personal values
4. Mampi, who is also a recent addition to my bloglist.
5. IHM, who has opinions but isn’t opinionated.

Last but not the least is the award I get for my honesty by IHM:

And the honest bloggers who get this award from me are:

1. Sue, for being Sue even on her blog!
2. Unsung Psalm, for his posts that come straight from the heart, whether they are about his English obsession or his gay life or whatever!
3. Rambunctious Whippersnapper, for his tongue-in-cheek yet honest account of his life
4. Roop, for her frank opinions on the serious and the mundane
5. Broom Box, for the honesty required to come out of the closet