Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying I wouldn’t want to be Aishwarya and pregnant. I’m just saying I’d hate to have so much undue attention on my pregnancy the way poor Aishwarya Rai Bachchan does these days. No, I’m not defending her either, because I’m not her fan or anything close. But I think my pregnancy is such a personal thing, I wouldn’t want it dissected to pieces by the media. Or made jokes of on all platforms. I understand that it’s the price the celebs pay for stardom, but seriously, if I were in her shoes, I would ask – why can’t stardom come with a privacy clause?
I’m very uncomfortable with the idea of discussing my pregnancy, or it being discussed by people who have nothing to do with me. It bothers me as a woman to think that another woman should have to go through it. A lot of people say, what’s the point of hiding something that can’t be hidden. True. But what’s the point of going and announcing it to people who think it’s fodder for their gossip?
A certain somebody from school, who I haven’t met since I passed out of Class X – which was way back in 1996(!) – and who doesn’t live in the same town as me, actually called up a common friend of ours and said she was very happy for me that I was expecting. And that after seven years of my marriage I would be very happy to have conceived. And then, there were not-so-polite enquiries about why I had had no children all these years. She wanted to know, ‘problem kya thi?’ A person who I haven’t seen in the last 15 years except for on Facebook was suddenly so interested in my life, all because I’m pregnant! I was so disturbed, I clammed up after that and didn’t want to tell anyone about the good news.
It’s extremely rude I think to pry into somebody’s lives like that. Some small time starlet tweeted about how Aishwarya had got IVF done at a Bangkok clinic. Who wants to know those kind of details about someone else, even if a celeb, unless they want to talk about it themselves? These topics are not taboo, or necessarily secrets, but I can’t get over how someone’s privacy can be intruded so shamelessly. It just leaves such a bad taste in the mouth.